Self love Journey (PART 1) - 2017

Since our childhood, we have been told how important self-love is. We have been told that before anyone loves you or love someone you must first have a relationship with yourself. It has been said that the more we do things that feed our soul, the more we become connected to our soul. This year(2017) I have decided to go on self-love journey, I will be posting all the things that I enjoy doing and that make me connected to my soul. I believe that self - love is what you do by yourself for ourselves.
The first thing I enjoy doing is putting an outfit together, whether its a casual or formal look, whether it's for vacation or just going shopping or church. Planning an outfit is exciting.

Self love journey (PART 2) - Have a Vision For Your life

Have a vision for your life.
What you see is more important than what other people see.

Having a vision is like planning your life the way you want it to be.  Give yourself enough time to write down your vision, be clear about what you want. There is nothing I enjoy the most than writing down my goals on the different pages of papers and keep them in the envelope, it could be a short term or a long term goals, after a month or two  I revisit my goals to check if I am still on track. Knowing what you want, what you are living for is the best thing you could do for yourself, it makes you focus more on your life, you do not worry about what other people are doing because you are too busy with your life. The book by  Rhonda Byrne The Secret says "You must sit down and write it out on a piece of paper." it also continue saying "Our job as a human is to hold on to the thoughts of what we want, make it absolutely clear in our mind what we want ...we become what we think the most..". Sean Covey, the author of the book called the seven habits of effective teen says that" All things are created twice, first mentally, second physically". There are so many things going on around us, confusion that sometimes you  ask yourself, why am I here on earth? unfortunately, no one can answer that question for you, you must figure it out yourself, it's your job, it's your responsibility.

Self Love Journey PART (3) - Brand yourself , Work on yourself.

I have realized that self-love is also about personal branding, working on something that you love and passionate about. It could be a talent, education or anything you are passionate of. I believe in education. I am one of those people who believe that education is key to success. I grew up in a poor family in rural areas. I lost my mother when I was only seven years old. I had nothing but dreams, I had big dreams, and I refused to focus on what was happening at that time. Dreaming big was an escape for me. I lived in the future. Education for me is everything, I have been to places I never thought I would go to, I have done things that I never thought I would do, I met people I never thought I would meet, I can take care of myself and my family because of education. I have worked so hard to brand myself, now I am holding a degree in Internal Auditing and I am currently doing my Master degree in Internal Auditing. Branding yourself is the best thing you could do for yourself, no one else can do it for you, and it’s your job, your responsibility. Love yourself, Brand yourself.

Written by Lisa Nqala

Self Love Journey (PART 4)- Be proud

Be proud of your self you been through so much but yet you are still standing.

You survived rejection from friends, family, partner and society.

You survived being rejected on a job interview, bursary application, school application etc.

You survived abandonment.

You survived a break-up, feeling useless, unwanted and stupid.

You survived embarrassment.

You survived the pain.

You survived the worse days.

You survived self-doubt.

You survived regrets.

You survived betrayal.

You survived humiliation.

You survived the death of a love one.

You survived your own negative thought.

You survived the ending of a relationship unexpectedly.

You survived the end of the job contract.

You survived hypocrites.

Who are you?

You are you.

You are unstoppable. 

You keep on moving

You are fearless

Your motto in life is "come what come may", what going to happen is going to happen, what happened was supposed to happen. Fight a good fight, fight for your goals.

Self love (PART 5) - Surround Yourself With Love #Choose Love.

Self-love is about choosing love in any situation and being comfortable with the real you. Choosing love is choosing to love yourself first before anyone else and to set standard for anyone who claim to love you. Choosing love is to learn to be comfortable in uncomfortable situations. Choosing love is choosing people, things that makes you feel comfortable. Even choosing clothes that makes you feel comfortable is still self-love because once you feel comfortable you begin to love yourself.

            "Love is about being comfortable"

Being surrounded by people who expect you to be something you are not or who constantly try to bring you down, makes you hate yourself and life. But once you start looking at your life and people who have been with you through thick and thin, you begin to see your life as a blessing and begin to love yourself and your life more than anything. Choose people who chose you over anything. Appreciate people who appreciate you. What good it is to have beautiful things but you cannot see and appreciate them? Love is choosing love. Love is appreciating Love. Surround yourself with love. Being surrounded by people who love and appreciate your existence is healing. 

Written by Lisa Nqala

BIBLE VERSES THAT WILL KEEP YOU STRONG IN 2017

1 Corinthians 15:58

"Therefore, my dear brothers and sisters, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labour in the Lord is not in vain".


Revelation 3:21

"The one who conquers, I will grant him to sit with me on my throne, as I also conquered and sat down with my Father on his throne".


Revelation 2:10

"Don't be afraid of what you are about to suffer. The devil will throw some of you into prison to test you. You will suffer for ten days. But if you remain faithful even when facing death, I will give you the crown of life".

James 1:2-3

"Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow."

1 Thessalonians 5-22

"Rejoice always,  pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. Do not quench the Spirit.  Do not treat prophecies with contempt but test them all; hold on to what is good, reject every kind of evil".

Jeremiah 31:13
"Then young women will dance and be glad, young men and old as well. I will turn their mourning into gladness; I will give them comfort and joy instead of sorrow".

Proverb 19:29

"You can make many plans, but the lord’s purpose will prevail".

RELATIONSHIP RULES - 2017 BE INCONTROL

#Rule no 1
Focus on the good.

#Rule no 2
Keep it private, it's only about you and your partner, not the world. Focus on making each other happy.

#Rule no 3
Be real, do not make it look perfect because it's not and it will never be.

#Rule no 4
Consistently develop/improve yourself, no one wants to be with someone who is stuck in life.

#Rule no 5
Have an inner circle, the people you go to when things are not going well in your life so that it does not put too much pressure on your relationship.

#Rule no 6
Be your own brand, build your brand people must not only know your for being so and so's girl/boyfriend.

#Rule no 7
Have passion, have something you are passionate about.

KIND OF FRIENDS YOU DO NOT NEED IN 2017-TAKE CONTROL IN 2017

1. The friend who always drop you or turn you down on the last minute.
2. The friend who talks ill of her/his other friends, he/she will do the same to you, trust me.
3. The friend   who always tells you his/her problems every time you see her/him and never have time to listen to yours, it’s always about her/ him,
4.The friend who always competes with you.
5.  That friend who has no passion in life, the boring type and draining friend.

6.  The friend who phone/text you when they need something, the mosquitoes they take and never give and if you say no to them they hate you/block your and cut you off their lives.
7. Those friends who are negative, they always say negative things about other people.
9. Those friends who are the snakes, the frenemy, they stab you at the back.
10. That friend who always tries to bring you down and never support you especially when you go through difficult times.

11. The friend who undermines everything you do.
12. The friend who always waiting for your downfall always interested on what could go wrong in your life, they never comment on the good, they only comment on the bad.

13. The friend who can’t stand you being better than her/him.

Written by Lisa Nqala