Lesson learned #1 confusion stage

Some men are confused about so many things in their lives such as their career, sexuality, past, present, the future etc. The vibe does not lie if he makes you feel confused then he is really confused about his life. Confused man brings confusion in the relationship that why it is important to choose them carefully, take note of their vibe. Men are born leaders if he does not even know his direction in life, how is he going to lead you? The only thing you can do is to get yourself out of that situation.

Written by Lisa Nqala

Lesson learned #2 some men are toxic

Some men are toxic not only with you but with everyone around them. Observe his life you will pick up some red flags, if they are surrounded by drama or having problem with everybody around them, they are toxic. That kind of people bring their toxic in the relationship, you will notice red flags such as silent treatment, mood swings etc. They do everything to make you feel sad, insecure, jealous, look stupid etc so that they feel better about themselves knowing that they are not sad alone.

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Lesson learned #3 bring her down syndrome

Some men suffer from #bring her down syndrome. They see you happy, in control, kind and doing well in life and feel like they need to bring you down.  They just want the glory that they made you look or feel stupid. They envy you happiness and your go-getter spirit, they start by making you feel special and beautiful. They lead you on so that they could drop you unexpectedly. Once they are done with that they will start acting happy in love with their partners. That’s how they boost their confidence by bringing other people down. The problem starts when the person they tried to hurt or bring down rise again and become twice better as before and become genuinely happy. Watching their victim rising, becoming better, and becoming happier terrifies them and make them look even more stupid and miserable.

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Lesson Learned#4 Ego

Some men come to your life just to boost their confidence. Just to find out if they are still attractive or wanted. They come to you not that they want a relationship, they just enjoy leading you on when they know that they have no intention to be part of your life forever. That’s where working on yourself and on your goals come in.  If your life is not properly planned it’s easy to get lost and be distracted. Where ever you go,  whoever you meet never leave yourself behind. If you do not have goals and dreams for your life you are opening a room for these kind of people to do whatever they like to you and get away with it so easy. Be in a relationship with someone and at the same time be in a relationship with yourself, you will never go wrong. Never pause your hustling for a relationship, multi-task. Your hustling must be louder than your relation ship.

Written by Lisa Nqala

 

Lesson Learned#5 Insecurity

Some men cannot handle a woman who is doing better than them. They want all the glory, praise and the spotlight for themselves. They would feel intimidated by woman's success.  Once you start shining or winning the relationship start to suffer.

Written by Lisa Nqala